KGirl - new life, new stuff #2

[Sotto]

Hi KGirl, I think you have already had some wise advice. Are you inappropriately infatuated, a bit needy, moving too fast? Possibly a little of all three? It is a very new R after all..

Any time we find ourselves thinking - I wish he would do X or Y - is a good time to completely and absolutely accept all current circumstances. All is as it is. He is at where he is at and doing what he is doing. Once we do this, we can look within and decide what we will do. I say this on the basis that we have 100% control over ourselves and about 0.01% over someone else.

In your case, I think you do sound somewhat over-invested in a new relationship. You have expectations and you are experiencing frustration too. Your pursuit comment resonated with me too - I also have pursuing tendencies, and I am learning to sit back and let things unfold more now - it's a work in progress for me!!

I think the best plan may be to gently shift some of that investment into other parts of your life and dial your investment in him down a little. Not that you need to accept things are going to end or anything, just to drop things in your mind to a less invested level and then behave accordingly. For now, invest some more energy in friends, family and other activities....then things will unfold in time for you both...

Best of luck with everything... :)xx