You're right, that's exactly what she's doing. Please remember that your W might not be telling the truth about how your daughter feels too...tough because she's so little.
Breathe. Think about what you believe is best for your D right now. Think about what you want. Talk to your L.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17