KGirl - new life, new stuff #2

[Georgiabelle]

K-girl,

I love it when you post and 25 and kml have given stellar advice. There is one snippet of dating advice that has stuck with me since college. If you have to jump through hoops on the front end (unless you are a circus performer), then it's just-not-worth-it. You are only 2 months in and I got exhausted reading about his challenges. It's like you are trying to prove that you are worthy of his time. Nope. Nope. Nope.

However, I do understand that you struggle with being single. I realize you are young, but you probably have many friends that are married. I was in a couple from 20-41 (with different peeps). I get it. I do. And I truly sympathize with you feeling like an anomaly even though realistically you aren't. Your feelings are your feelings.

Live your life. If he wants to see you, he will make a genuine effort. And if he doesn't make the effort? I know it's a cr@ppy feeling, but you weren't ever going to be important enough.

I do think you need to dig a bit deeper as to why you feel the need to pursue. I have a friend who falls into that role with men who are not "that" interested and it leaves her feeling rejected and sad. What she doesn't realize is that their level of interest was apparent from the beginning. It's what suits their schedule/desires etc. I don't think that's what you want.

And yes, dating can be difficult. Don't be so quick to "jump in" and let things evolve. Sending you a hug!