Oh, and you did not destroy your marriage, your wife did when she stepped outside of it. Screaming and threatening the man who pissed all over your marriage is not unexpected or even wrong in my opinion.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3