Hey there, hope you don't mind a spectator entering into the ring. Please stop having conversations about "what you need to work on the MR." You've stated on no uncertain terms what you need and she has stepped all over them. Detach. Stop the location tracker, stop discussing anything outside of the children and logistics of paying bills and house care. She is not expressing any remorse, she sounds regretful that she screwed up her nice little posh life and has to deal with the consequences but not for hurting (and continuing to hurt) you. Her tears are that of guilt and selfish regret but not remorse. DBing is all about doing what works and tossing the rest.
Going over your most recent posts I was struck by how healthy you sounded when you detached. You stopped talking with your WW about your relationship, stopped asking her to do this or that. You stopped pursuing, you were mysterious and perhaps a little bit sexy and strong. Go back to that and try to do that again. Now is the time to fake it until you make it. I am speaking from experience. How I wish I could turn back time to Dday #1 and be the kind of person you were being when you detached. I think my pain would not have been so prolonged and I would not still be struggling with my choices.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
