New here, really need advice

[AMartin]

Job -

It did take me a few months to stop 'pretzeling.' I identified several things that I thought were actually valid, and have been working on them.

Last night, I went home to take my dog to the vet. I thought H would be out playing golf, his Tues night league. I got home from the vet and he was there. I told him what the vet said; there's a tumor growing on my dog's leg that needs to be removed ASAP. He asked me if I wanted to get some dinner. I agreed. I probably shouldn't have, but I did. We went, and talked mainly about meaningless stuff. Some stuff about moving our son up to Chicago in a few weeks. When we got back, H booted up his work laptop, and basically ignored me again. So I just left and went back to my house sitting.

I called him later, about 11:30pm. I was so upset, I just couldn't stand it anymore. So I told him that I couldn't do this. That I'd be civil if our son was around, but other than that, nothing. I will not be just friends. If we split, that's it. No contact except what's necessary for S's stability. I asked him what he was thinking. He said he was very upset, that things were getting out of control and too real. He's afraid, and doesn't think he wants to separate. He wanted to talk to his mother, and did I want to meet to talk tomorrow night?
I said no, Thursday night.

He's just now feeling like things are too real? Seriously? The marriage counselor we were seeing told me that I should go off and leave him for a week, to let it really sink in what it would be like without me. She thought he needed to be shocked. I'm not getting my hopes up at all yet.

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