Your line about him listening more than he has in ears had me cackling. I comfort myself with the knowledge that WH has NO patience to actually read anything on the internet aside from some short articles. I try to imagine him reading anything about feelings or relationships and laugh my butt off.
You STBX never ceases to amaze me. Does he have any idea the amount of hot water he will be in when it's found he is hiding income/assets from a judge?! The take a dim view of people trying to manipulate the law. I would sit in the court room with a bag of popcorn and watch the fireworks exploded when the judge is shown the evidence.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3