Well done not getting into a physical altercation with the OM. Pat yourself on the back for having the sort of control over yourself and your actions that both he and your W lack.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)