We're still together and I'm still haunted by my wife's affair 5 years on. When the affair first came out I got Michele's materials, followed it to a tee and we are still together (thank you). My wife made all the changes, big ones including moving and I can't fault her.
But I still have daily flashbacks about their sex. It's destroying me. I'll be dreaming about something random and then there'll be a switch to them having sex, I don't consciously decide to think about it, it just pops into my head and bam feel like crap. I tell my self 'stop' immediately and do something to not dwell but I don't know why these keep coming in, daily without prompting or any pre-thought about it.
Has this happened to anyone else, how did you get past it?
I don't want to spend the rest of my marriage like this.
