I don't know the US rules regarding contact with your child when she is with stbxw, but do you have a legal right to have it? (I know you have a moral right, but you know, WW's....)
M:46 WXW:40 T:20 M:13 D3,D8,D10 BD:11/12/16 D:12/14/16 OM confirmed 01/20/17