Ya I am just trying to fix my contributions. I have spent time talking with my grandma, who loved H dearly, about everything.
She said , since he likes the word done so much, he can see how 'done' I am with him. He has sent her several messages asking if she's having a good time with the kids and she has not responded to the messages. They used to talk via text maybe one or two times a week before BD.
She's an old fashioned girl. She said that there's no reason a husband or man for that fact leaves his wife when she's just had a baby. She said her biggest thing is he has to do it when I was 8 months pregnant. Also the fact that he's done it before. She said he should have been humble and had been given the gift of a lifetime. She said everyone can be a better wife and everyone goes through tough times but you don't make permanent decisions based on temporary issues. My pregnancy was really rough and add school kids work etc in and I see what happened. She said the reason we haven't had an issue since he came back was because I didn't bring up the past and we didn't face any challenges what so ever to have a problem about. But that as soon as life got a little tough he quit. Thank god I wasn't sick with a terminal illness or had a tragic accident etc.
She gets so frustrated with me wondering COULD a I have done something different... I fight those feelings everyday. If I did this would we have been okay right now. She keeps telling me NO. He is a quitter and it's easier to walk away.
I think he got the picture of my lack of responses to him. He's now texting the boys instead of me... S9 said I only respond to him if I need something .. I had to quietly laugh. I still make them call. Like last night they didn't want to but once they got on the phone they wer fine. S9 doesn't want much to do with him. He remembers last BD and those of you who were here for that remember how terrible H was to the boys. S6 luckily doesn't remember.
Train- I am going to stay through the weekend if you're around
