Oh the Facebook and the on this day! Yup. 10 years worth of messages and shared events. I look at it every single day. That is the pain, the hurt, the regret, the shame, the hope part that all of us seem to struggle with. But it's also the core of what made the two of you work. If you are looking at it, perhaps she is too. Perhaps she is focused on the negatives but she cannot help but see those positive messages too.
It most likely was not a lie when she wrote that. Or maybe she had already been unhappy but kept going forward hoping for a change.
I think THAT's the crucial part. It's not that we waited so long to change but when we finally do, it confuses our S. But it also offers them a path back.
It's just a very long marathon... That part is true for everyone, but I think depending on context there are different realities. There is no one-size-fits-all solution towards reconciliation and / or being happy to move on. What IS consistent is the working on ourselves, the consistency in 180s, the detaching from overly romantic. I think the moment of when we all get to this forum is different across sitch.
