What am I doing wrong? I didn't show any concern other than what may come my way.
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The best thing you can do is to be the best you that you can be. They may or may not come out of the fog, but if they do, then youll be in a great position to where your improvements will be noticed.
If this is the case, then why not just have a self-improvement board? I also read and agree that w's unhappiness is her own and not necessarily due to me.
I see lots of advice on how to react, how to behave, yet it is all for not?
For me, I learned two things here:
1) what I could do to not make my overall situation worse - for example, the 37 rules are designed to help you to stop digging the hole that you had been for days/weeks/months. It gets you to stop doing behaviors that arent working. While these things seem common sense now, at the moment, I didnt have the wherewithal to do any of them.
2) It got me to focus on the things I could control - myself and my relationships with my family, friends, coworkers, children, and yes, even my now ex - and figure out what I wanted those things to look like. I looked at myself to understand how I ws behaving and sought to fix the areas that I felt needed repair. While I started out doing that as a way to get my ex back, I quickly realized that those endeavors were like pushing on a string.
Yes, there are surely other sites that can also help with #2. But I think this site does a great job of blending the two.
