As for GAL. I've always kind of had an L. I golf, have cigar friends, started playing guitar a few years ago. Take my Ds on dates. All supported by the W. We go out to eat often, alone and with family.
I know this sounds self-serving and I am far from perfect, but W says she is just not happy, taking inventory of all past setbacks and disappointments and friends death, daughter leaving for college. If there is something I'm doing or not, she can't tell me what it is. Says that I use the computer too much while she plays games on her phone.
Her lack of happiness is not my responsibility, nor could I change it. If I could, I would. She never even seemed unhappy. MLC? Problem is last time this came up 4 years ago she handled it with an EA.
One thing I could do is better is detach. I base my happiness on the response I'm getting from her and others. All the negative affects of not detaching.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
