Hi Dale, I've been following your threads without commenting, but wanted you to know how much I respect the path you've chosen.
I know your pain very well as I went through much the same thing with my WAS. Even though we didn't reconcile in our case (hopefully yours will be different), I found that by improving myself and working hard to take the high road, I found peace and became the man I always wanted to be.
Best of luck - I admire your desire to choose the right always.