New here, really need advice

[AMartin]

Now, I want to point out something that you stated at the end of your last posting...you are trying to make the changes that he has pointed out. What were those changes and did they make sense? The reason that I am asking is that MLCers tend to point out things that we need to change and those changes are like moving targets. Once you've made those changes, he/she will come up w/new ones, etc. Make changes for YOU! If you are happy w/the changes you are making in your life, then good...but be sure you are happy w/them.

Job-

At first, after H dropped the bomb, I kinda went more than a little nuts, trying to do everything I thought I should've been doing, that if I had been a better, healthier wife this wouldn't have happened. My mother pointed out to me that I was taking all the responsibility for everything, my health, the hit to our finances, all of the housework I'd been unable to do, H's feelings are so suppressed most of the time that he couldn't see how much he was blaming me for everything. So I took a step back, and tried to see what was valid and what wasn't. Those are the things I'm working on.