A familiar story with questions..

[Cadet]

Reading and reading, I still don't get a clear picture. Work on myself for the things she won't identify. Act AS IF.
Detach, don't pursue. I get that.

I would love to hear what get's their attention, what has been successful at shaking them out of the fog. Do I pack my stuff?

I realize it is a complicated answer but surely someone has done/seen this and had results.

When you are fully detached and don't care what gets their attention.