It sure is messy treasur! I'm afraid I was focused on being at least one "good" person in the M. I had friends egging me on. Heck even my dad was. That's why I don't talk about it much. Responses include, "you are a better man than I am, I would have been gone a long time ago" and "You just need a fun night with another woman". Well I had that so called fun night but it wasn't fun for me.

Guess I had to bite the dust at least once. These last weeks have been a true test. If I wasn't such a distant husband I don't know if I would even be trying this. I actually feel really bad and was hoping for redemption. Mainly why I continued friendly convos with wife but it got to be too much to handle. I sure wish I would have never gave her an ultimatum about this cruise deal. It was eating at me for whatever reason. They live with each other so I guess it cant get much more than that.


M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year
T 7 Years

Wife left October 2016
Affair began August 2016

Me 31 years old
Wife 29 years old