Haha Sandi - my ONLY concern with that is I need the house payment made and I don't need to piss him off anymore. That's the only reason why I even indulge his texts. Also I don't want him to use anything against me legally. That was why I said I was thinking of having him message the kids with their iPad or split a phone so communication doesn't have to be done through me.
Train - Asheville is about an hour and a half from me too ... maybe if I extend my trip we could try and meet if that drive isn't too far for you. I may leave tomorrow because I'm supposed to go back to work Thursday (my first day back) but I'm contemplating calling out and staying through the weekend. It's up in the air right now.
Cadence- yes she is quite classless but aren't most affair partners to begin with? I get what you're saying about the texts. He did the same thing last time. And as things progressed when we weren't living together he used to blow up if I didn't respond. I will get to that point. Once he's served it will all change. I will follow my L advice as far as interaction and necessary responses for the kids that won't hurt me from a legal standpoint. I know all the texts are BS because he didn't ask about the baby. It's just him trying to look good and rain on our parade. He also text the boys on their iPad to send him a picture of their new fishing rod they bought. They sent him it and he never responded so F him. And now that he text them on there then that seems like a good way for them to communicate. I may just if he texts me have the boys respond via their iPad and then I don't have to respond. I can take screen shots of them responding so that it shows I am keeping them in communication and he doesn't need to go through me.
I also have decided to be done with MIL ... I let her know about the spending the night with another woman, she saw the pictures posted and she won't say anything to H like she did last BD so I cannot have a relationship with someone that doesn't want respect for the kids and I. It's fine if it's not her battle... but I just can't meet her needs of getting pictures of the kids etc when she sees what he's doing.
