I really don't want people involved because I don't want it getting any worse. I'm already frustrated about everything she said last night because I know he feels backed ina corner and like she said he's VERY concerned what others think about him. She said he is so self absorbed it's disgusting. So I really just don't want him knowing I care enough to discuss anything.
Let it go. You cannot control what other people do. I think she did a really good job! Do 't be upset with her for being a good friend to you and telling your jerk H what she thinks of him. So what, if he's backed into a corner? What difference does it make? T, you have to let this go!
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I can't remember if I also told you guys he told my friend I ran away with the kids to NC that I packed up and just left didn't tell him. It's a lie obviously I called him about it. He said I ran away from our problems and that me leaving to NC was the nail in the coffin for him. It sealed the deal that this can't be fixed.
Maybe it's time that you stop protecting him. Divorce usually splits more than families. It splits the couple's friends. It is very difficult to maintain the same couple friends and attend the same activities that you had during the M. It's just too uncomfortable for everyone. You can have your friends and he'll have his. He is showing his cad colors by lying about his wife and covering his own a$$. I think it's time his house of cards fall.
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It's just anything to blame me. If it wasn't me going to NC it would have been something else. That's why my biggest concern is to not fuel his narrative
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How do you mean this ^^^^^^^^^? Are you concerned what your friends will think about you? He must feel pretty confident that you won't expose him for the liar and cheat that he is.
Infidelity, alone, can be a sign of weak/low character traits.......but to lie about his W who has just had his baby, and who is taking care of his family while he cheats.........is the lowest excuse of a man.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Ugh I was even telling my grandma how pumped I was to meet you! I thought for sure high country was highlands lol
Oh and on a not nearly as fun note
I ended up having this interaction with H. I hope I'm getting the hang of indifference
H: how are the boys today did they go gem mining M: doing great H: they get a lot of good stuff? H: ? M: (several hours later) lots H: did they let the baby try lol H: can you send me some pictures H: it would be nice to see them
Then he calls three times. I had the boys call back when we got home.
H; can you send me pictures please I sent him s picture of the 3 boys. Thought about sending one with me but figured that would be bitchy lol H: awesome. So glad you're having fun
I never replied. How long is he going to fake this now after he got his hand slapped by my friend
how long? Well, the weekend is coming, so, maybe 4 days?
sorry. The good news is that I don't think you'll have to deal with it for long.
Oh, and you can let him know he's free to visit them and go somewhere OUT with them...
God...ugh
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Your H is an idiot..."it would be nice to see them"?? Well, you could stop having an A and be a father and husband...how about trying that, you f***ing idiot? Grrr
T - you are rocking indifference so beautifully that you should be wearing a Queen of Whatever crown!
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
