Wait a minute. Your therapist is telling you to push D and W along even though you do not want D? Your friends are saying the same?
Yes, they are telling me to keep moving forward and protect myself.
I think I need to spend some time reflecting on what it is I actually want though, I am still wounded so I haven't been totally trusting of my judgement.
At times I want to keep trying for the W and for the M. At other times I am done already. At least that's how I feel right now and it changes frequently still.
I know I have a personal time limit, but I don't know what my limit is yet. I also know I do not accept being a 2nd choice or fallback either. But both of those statements exclude the mental health scenario. This too changes day to day, but in my sitch right now, I feel that if there were not a mental health questions here that I would not be posting here right now.
Take the mental health out of the equation and my position is that I would still be hurt, but you don't need to tell me more a few times that you don't want to be in our M, so I'm done.
It's the mental health aspect that has me bound.
Me: 47 W: 44 M: 3 yrs; 10 years together D (Hers): 2000 BD: 06/01/2017 S: 06/01/2017
