My therapist tells me even though I don't want D that I will need to push W along. It's frustrating, she is an intelligent woman who is able to do things for herself but with the D, I have had to push for simple tasks.
Friends tell me that is because it's a responsibility and she isn't interested in and doesn't care about responsibilities right now. She only cares about herself and things that make her feel good right now.
Hello Guzzard,
Wait a minute. Your therapist is telling you to push D and W along even though you do not want D? Your friends are saying the same?
I would hold off on pushing the D through at this point.
There are things that could work and make a difference. I suggest you speak to a DB coach, as they are experts in looking at what has happened to bring you to this point in your relationship and what is the best way to interact with her, so that you are most likely to bring her closer and not push her any further away, especially considering the mental health issues.
Your coach's expertise will help you come up with a very specific plan (that may be counter intuitive to what you feel like saying and doing) on how to best turn things around. I wish you all the best and would be happy to discuss the coaching with you.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
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