Yes, you are right, the trying to help didn't work and I backed off it. On the last call she mentioned to me again that she had been crying for 2 days and I just said that I was sorry to hear that. She actually replied again that she thinks it's just "part of the process" - I'm not entirely sure what she means by that, but I have a bad feeling it is her way of moving on.
Again, can't control it and can't ask as I'm keeping conversations brief, but it is a bad feeling in my stomach.
Me: 47 Wife: 39 Together: 20 yrs Married: 16 yrs S:9, S:7, D:5, D:1 BD: 7/4/2017 Separation (though living in the same house) 7/20/2017 ?????