I'm confused by what you mean by not wanting to fuel his narrative.
Are you worried about what others think?
Do you believe the general public would believe that a woman with 3 kids including an infant would spontaneously, insanely kick her h out of the marital home for no reason?
OR leave for the mountains driving all alone with her kids, telling no one and for no reason?
NOT THAT IT ^^^ MATTERS, but no, that's not going to happen w/ 90% of "listeners." No normal person would believe that.
Anyhow...
By delaying your return , do you delay other things like filing?
Can you track the finances still?
I'm worried about delaying the D filing, from a financial perspective.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016