Finding my way in the dark - Part 2

[Holding]

Something I can now share: I've had a L for about a week, and it has given me so much piece of mind and stability. I actually feel like my boys and I might come out of this horrible mess in good shape. As you may recall, W was pushing heavily for me to use her L, who is also her friend. So this past week, W has had no idea that I already have a L.

This weekend W kept pushing a discussion of finances, which my L has told me not to engage in. It reached a point where I got tired of dealing with it and gave her my L's card. She didn't react to it that much. I'm expecting a sh*tstorm is still incoming in the future. About an hour later, she asked me if I was going to try to get primary custody of the kids - a sign she is worried. I told her I wasn't going to talk about it.

Funny thing, during the financial discussion (before the L part), when my wife was discussing how I closed the overdraft line, she twice made some kind of statement like "What if I changed my mind?" It wasn't presented like it was really something she was thinking about, but more like, "even if I changed my mind, how could we make this work since there's so little trust between us?" I think it was more an attempt to shift the blame and try to get me to answer the questions I was ignoring.

Y'all remember the kids' keepsakes W threw away? This morning I discovered she put their baby blankets (the striped ones they get at the hospital) in the pile of "clean up" towels in our garage. I was horrified - we use these towels to clean up spills, animal accidents, bathrooms, etc. I put them aside for safekeeping.

Part of me is wondering if this is some kind of cry for attention. She left the blankets in a very obvious place. The other stuff she threw out sat in bags in the garage for a week.

Thoughts?