Another funny thing (well not really funny!! ) is she criticizes her parents R and how they interact but is following their path.
It is truly odd that they are going down the same hole that their parents did, yet they cannot see that they are.
Mine is doing to me the same thing her mother did to her father, yet she cannot see it. Her mother, on the other hand, is beginning to wake up and see that it is happening.
Originally Posted By: roist
I have changed my negative interactions which formed half of this dynamic. I am grateful to be able to see this kind of stuff, though the years of blindly taking my R for granted (no I would even say when I didn't care less about it during my depression) will not be easy to overturn.
I'm sure we all took our marriages for granted at times. There is nothing to be ashamed of, but instead we should be grateful that we have recognized that and will try our best to not do it again. Just as MWD has said, we are becoming the people our spouses would be crazy to leave. We are doing our homework and are trying to fix our faults so that we can become so much better at our jobs of parents, spouses, friends, lovers, etc.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
