WAS OR WHAT 10

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Thanks HaWho, I appreciate you checking in on me. Thanks

I am hectic at the moment especially at work. I am not making time to come here often at the moment. I have two more heavy weeks of work before taking two weeks away with the family. I have mixed feelings about family holidays.TThey generally pass OK with fun moments, but it is hard to ignore the missing aspects when together 24/7.

Over time my W has demonstrated again and again her emphasis on being a family. The latest is she wants to set up a family email address for us and our sons to all have access to and she wanted our wedding date to be the password as that was when we became a family. I am all for us being a family but I don't believe it is truly possible without being a couple too/first.II have been close to saying that to her and may do so on a future occasion

5here are loads of other examples of this.

Another funny thing (well not really funny!! ) is she criticizes her parents R and how they interact but is following their path. I have changed my negative interactions which formed half of this dynamic. I am grateful to be able to see this kind of stuff, though the years of blindly taking my R for granted (no I would even say when I didn't care less about it during my depression) will not be easy to overturn.

HaWho, job recently told you that your h is comfortably stuck and may need a prod to become "unstuck" . My W may be the same. They both seem OK with not being okay. Maybe one day we will have to let them know that not being okay is not OK by us. I have other bridges to cross first but I do see that potentially down the line. I also believe in it's power as it is that that woke me up from my depression and allowed me decide to save my M.

Thanks for the prod to post.

Best wishes to anyone reading