Thank you for sharing and I'm very sorry that your health hasn't been the best for a long time. Hopefully, in time, you will begin to feel better. Stress does play a role in some of your health issues because you have been very worried about the finances, etc. If, at all possible, find ways to relieve that stress, even if it is a simple walk to a park and sitting on a bench to enjoy the view.
Your h had some triggers, new department, new job and son going off the school, as well as he fits in the age range of wanting to re-evaluate his life.
Now, I want to point out something that you stated at the end of your last posting...you are trying to make the changes that he has pointed out. What were those changes and did they make sense? The reason that I am asking is that MLCers tend to point out things that we need to change and those changes are like moving targets. Once you've made those changes, he/she will come up w/new ones, etc. Make changes for YOU! If you are happy w/the changes you are making in your life, then good...but be sure you are happy w/them.
Please take are of yourself and I know that this is difficult, but put the focus back on you and your son. You need to take care of yourself and worrying about him isn't going to help you heal.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
