You have to get cool, pleasant but cool. He knows what he's doing and so do you.
Send an email with the due amounts and his obligations with deadlines. Period
Don't whine or try to use it against him..
Just the facts, mam.
No editorials, opinions or expanding on the topic.
Bottom line is the law is on your side. (Don't point this out, he knows it)
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
I'm going to see a lawyer today to file my complaint for the divorce. Unfortunately, it has to come down to this. No matter what I do or say, I'm getting blamed for everything that's wrong in this marriage. I'm so depressed and feeling hopeless. I feel like my whole world is turned upside down because I thought the man that I've devoted 12 years of my life would never turned against me.
Yet deep down in my heart, I have this tiny bit of hope that things will turn around. Maybe I'm just fooling myself. I don't know how to heal and I don't know how to take my power back because I'm crying all the time. I hate feeling like this because I feel like I'm so out of control. Just when I feel like I can heal from this, the things he says brings it all down.
Me: 37 H: 32 S:10 D: 9 Married: 11 years Sep: 6/25/17 D filed: 7/13/17
I stumbled across the law of attraction on my search for healing and everything makes so much sense. I'm not a religious person but I believe in the universe, nature, and energies. I started manifesting positive energies and although it's very tough while being hurt, I learned to forgive and have gratitude.
I believe my husband is slowly responding to me because I'm radiating out positive energy to him. He's initiating conversations with me and staying longer at the house when he's spending time with the kids.
I am not rushing the process but I will continue to apply the law of attraction everyday so that I can continue to manifest a loving and trusting relationship with my husband so that one day we can reconcile.
Me: 37 H: 32 S:10 D: 9 Married: 11 years Sep: 6/25/17 D filed: 7/13/17
I would hold off on filing at this point. However there are things that could work and make a difference.
I suggest you speak to a DB coach, as they are experts in looking at what has happened to bring you to this point in your relationship and what is the best way to interact with him, so that you are most likely to bring him closer and not push him any further away.
Your coach's expertise will help you come up with a very specific plan (that may be counter intuitive to what you feel like saying and doing) on how to best turn things around. I wish you all the best and would be happy to discuss the coaching with you.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
A Divorce Busting Coach can help you save your marriage, even when your spouse wants out.
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