RR, that list you have copied and pasted is not Sandi's 37 rules. I think I know where you got it (from another member's post). IDK, but I think he was using the original list but cutting it shorter, and maybe giving his twist on some of them. There are a few places that could leave the wrong idea with the reader, IMHO. I considered saying something at the time when he first started passing that version around, but he has as much right to post what he wants, as I do. The reason I am speaking up now is b/c my name is attached. Here is the link to Sandi's 37 Rules:
Interestingly enough, a lot of posters have referred to them as "The 180". To be clear, they are only guidelines for the newcomer who has no idea which way to turn when they first arrive here. They are not "The 180". There is not "The 180". Everyone decides for themselves what they will do that is opposite of their usual behavior. That's the principle behind taking a 180 degree. Also, let me point out that a newcomer does not necessarily take a 180 degree in everything. Reading Divorce Remedy will better explain it.
At the bottom of the first page of Sandi's Rules is a link to another guide about the mindset of the WW. You may find it helpful to your situation.
I hope I have clarified a couple of things, and not made it more confusing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
