"use your anger as a call to action, which is not likely to turn into bitterness".
I get why you're mad. (T3, I REALLY get why the fb posts upset you. My fool H posted on HIS page and knows our kids & I and dozens of mutual friends and colleagues would see it
(the kids had refused to meet OW in Mexico where inlaws had winter home) so H posted he's "introducing OW to family in Cabo San Lucas" where WE vacationed for 20+ of our 35 years and in summer we would go to the ranch, which I predict OW will visit with h. Kids felt he was punishing them by saying "the family" when none of us were there, but I think BEST CASE scenario is h is "all done" and so, why can't he post like that??
MY guess=
"Why is 25 hurt? It's Not her business!! BUT IF she is hurt, she must miss me which validates how great a catch I am and what a lousy catch she is, that she's not dating...'
But I've seen a few of those types of pics with h's colleagues and their new OWs, in which I did not know the w, but instantly disliked the h for posting a new gf. I could see it was shallow and cruel to their ex wives. I wonder if those pics are for their male friends to give "attaboys!" to them...?? Because we women are NOT impressed by those things...most distasteful to me.
If I had known the wives, I'd have sent a supportive message. Point being, these guys are NOT perceived by most women very well. Married women find it threatening to know a man can leave his wife & mother of 3, including an infant....
they may not say it to his face, (most won't) but it's not going to go over well.
Many men and women get protective of new moms/pregnant women. Your friend talking to him - let's hope he will be fair to you. THAT is what I'd emphasize if your friends can. Mirror back that they hope/expect him to be "generous"
don't gag until you get the money... Your h's campaign to polish his image is an epic fail.
However I prefer him telling your mutual friends: "I don't know what's wrong with me... But I don't want to be married" ^^^that is the best version you can expect him to give,
AND it says it all, without making you the villain.
Carry on T, you are getting thru the worst of the storm. It is going to pass.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
