If it helps on the financial/D options, I've found so far that giving myself time really helps. Time doing other things so you're not chewing at it. It helps you tune in to what feels right/best for you and it helps you see options or ideas that weren't immediately obvious.

You are right that none of us are valued through just one person's eyes. It is also true that this was a best friend you trusted and you are having to make decisions you never thought you would. Both are true. And it's ok to feel a whole bunch of things all at the same time! Just don't let those feelings - good or not so - be driving the boat xxx

Me: 53 H:38
T:20 M:14
BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression
S 1/16
PA 4/16
H filed 1/17