Hey friends, Finally over the travel from WA to AL. I don't see how these overseas travelers make it. Wow, it was a long day. I'm still catching up.
Whatever you look to for light and good vibes and warm hugs and good karma, please send some my way this week. I'm meeting with a financial advisor tomorrow that my Mom uses, who's agreed to go over my finances with me at no charge. Then I will make appointment with my L to decide how I want to proceed. I've worked all day (and the week before I left) doing my homework, and hope I haven't left anything out that I need to request in my legal documents.
I'm not sure how I'm going to proceed, whether it's going to be a marital settlement, or a file for divorce. Lots of pros and cons both ways- two of which are if I just get the settlement, I can stay on H's medical insurance, plus since he's in a fast track to much more money in his job (and he has 9 more years to work than I, since I guess I'm a COUGAR)- I'm better off that way. Not like a divorce is going to change my life right now. We already have NC. I guess I just can't get married again yet.
Sigh. Oh well, I guess that works out, since I don't even KNOW any single men. LOL.
On the other hand, if I DO go for divorce, that ends my marriage at 13 and 1/2 years, so even if we R on down the road, and even remarried, it would affect my LENGTH OF MARRIAGE, which would affect money down the road.
So confusing, all this, and really it all boils down to protecting myself financially, since we all knew this current M was already over.
On top of that, H is supposed to use his "come to see me" airline ticket this week to fly down to see his family and go on their annual beach trip.
I truly cannot believe all this is coming in the same week. All I can say is, thank God for you Cadence, you told me to go get Xanax. That may save my sanity this week.
Thanks for any prayers, good thoughts, warm hugs, Karma darts, that anyone has any extras to send my way this week.
I WILL SURVIVE! Love you all.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton