Because you said you don't think NC with OM will ever happen. Is that accurate?
I dont think ive ever said THAT, and, if I have, it was a misprint. I honestly don't think she has any future with OM... he's just... he just doesn't have a whole lot to offer outside of the mystique of the affair. I have on a couple of occasions said I should nominate him for "Right Place at the Right Time Poster Child", and I meant that. My wife could do so, so, so, so much better... trust me (And I am not just talking about me--heck, I prolly don't deserve to get her back either, all things considered). If she TRULY ends up thinking this guy is her soul mate and decides to spend the rest of her life with him?... Then she is assuredly not someone I would want to be with. I just really don't see that relationship enduring, especially if it becomes a "real world" R and not just a secretive A. And that is looking at it objectively, not just as the jilted, jealous husband. The guy literally checks one "box" with her, and that is that he pays alot of attention to her and gave her the compliments and attention her husband (me) denied her for the past 8 to 10 years. He literally has almost nothing else going for him.
I think what I HAVE said, at least recently, is that I don't know how I would ever be able to TRUST that NC with OM has happened. She could actually do it (and she may even have actually done so, now) but... don't know how I can/could/should trust that as things currently stand. I'd almost need her to come "begging" to me (and there's no ego in me in saying that... just think I'd need to see some more humility and remorse than I have). There's a lot of other factors and overlays, too, but.. there's just not a lot of trust there for her in my mind and heart right now. Like basically none
Some quick kudos to Sandi2 who was right. Again.
Beach trip my W took back during July 4 week directly after our family trip, where she met up with bff for two nights did, as Sandi said she suspected based solely on my somewhat sketchy account, apparently include OM (nearly certainly). Big stupid idiot posted a picture on his FB page from the day my W was up there of him out in front of boardwalk beach bar just TWO BLOCKS down the boardwalk from my W was staying, or at least supposedly staying, with her bff and one other girl. Conclusive proof? No, but.... come on.
Sandi is just too dead-on accurate for words.
And this is just a paper cut. Doesn't change anything since I already knew W hadn't been keeping to NC and since I had sort of just let myself assume she had seen OM up there, but...
Nice job Sandi. I will never doubt you again...
Last edited by Cadet; 07/31/1708:30 AM. Reason: Combine posts
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