From what I have seen, most WW's do not see their H being happy and having a full life without her. She sees herself moving on with a great life, while he pines away for her. So, when he is not showing the reaction she had mentally pictured.........it surprises her and she wants to know what's going on with him. She is curious, maybe even suspicious. Don't be surprised if you see moodiness, resentment, or other signs of anger that's connected to you appearing happy and enjoying life without her. Although it makes no sense to you......it boils down to her illogical, egotistical mindset. She said it wasn't about her, but she lied. Everything is about her!
Keep your calendar full of GAL activities. Keep a healthy balance between doing things with your kids.... and finding time for yourself......and GAL with adults.
Will do sandi2, thanks for the input..... It's hard to continue down this path of DBing when i know it's affecting her in this manner. I know i have just begun to see the effects of DBing and I know i'm doing this for the right reasons, but it's still hard. Especially when i want more than anything for us to reconcile. The hard part is going to be how to judge if and when to engage in R talks with her. This week our youngest daughter will be away from home with friends. So I am trying to think positive thoughts about our interactions without her there. I will be planning as much GAL events as possible to minimize any alone time withe her...
