Your h is being his passive-aggressive self, as well as emotionally playing games w/your head, heart and soul when he withdraws sex & affection. If he does it, then ignore his sorry @ss and don't allow him to see that his behavior is driving you nuts. When he sees your knickers in a twist, he knows that he's got a way to control you and also knows he can use that same tactic time and again. He is manipulating and controlling you by acting this way. Change it up and act like it doesn't bother you not to get sex and attention. When he starts to see it doesn't bother you, maybe, just maybe, he'll change his tune.
Also, your h is "shopping/comparing" you and your sex life to that of the ow. They get on this euphoric sex-a-rama kick for a bit and then go back to the way that they were.
I would have as little as possible to do w/him. If he speaks to you, answer him in a civil manner, but don't go searching for him to have discussions about anything. Treat him as you would a delivery guy. Smile, nod, answer questions, but don't over extend yourself.
Have you read any books on the passive-aggressive behavior? If not, you need to get to the library this week and check some out.
You are going to have to be a darn good actress to get through the moving in of your son and the parent orientation, after that, come home and beat the stuffing out of pillows, scream or find something physical to do.
Here is a link to the recommended reading material thread. I recommend getting a book on passive-aggressive behavior written by Scot Wetzler. He's a great writer and the info is excellent.
Last edited by job; 07/30/1708:47 AM. Reason: Added a link to another thread
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