BTW, I have violated the rules or 180 today. W woke me at midnight and I couldn't get back to sleep for several hours.
Woke this morning hoping to attend church when oldest D call from 2 rooms away and asked if I can take her to a friend's to leave on a beach trip. A trip I was never made aware of.
This along with the deprivation caused me to miss church and I let W know of my displeasure.
W apologized. Both for not informing me about the trip and for short notice and waking me. This is a big step for her. Apologies do not come easy.

Anyway, I did show slight anger and I feel I violated the rules.
Her response is, I'm sure a sign of something, but I don't know what.

I'm tired and grouchy.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.