A familiar story with questions..

[Rose888]

One thing that can be surprising: piecing is a decision, not an emotion.

Spouses don't have to feel "in love" to decide to piece.

I see some LBSes who get their egos tied up in how their spouses feel about them. In my experience, piecing comes first and then emotions (hopefully) follow, but the LBS needs to be patient and not crowd their spouse.