He said that he wanted us to be friends first so he can see the change in me. I admit, over the years, I didn't show him the attention that he needed and so he felt devalued as a husband. I used to be a very confident, social, and happy person. As the years go by, life takes over, I was stress, overwhelmed from the responsibilities as a mother, student, wife, and maintaining a household. I had built up resentment with him over time, we got into frequent arguments and slowly disconnected.
Just my 2 cents ... had he ever brought any of this up before?
It takes two in a M and I don't think you should burden all the blame.
If you've reflected and found things to work on for yourself then that is a good part of the process.
I was in your state recently, blaming myself and apologizing for everything... really though, while there are things I can work on to improve myself, I am certainly not fully at blame for the M. Both partners have to participate.
Me: 47 W: 44 M: 3 yrs; 10 years together D (Hers): 2000 BD: 06/01/2017 S: 06/01/2017
