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Sounds to me like she may feel the same way about the D paperwork that you do, although your friends could also be partially correct. It appears her focus is on the EA/her hobby and what is making her feel good at the moment.

Taking it another way though, wy are you working on the D paperwork? Seems to me if you both have excuses to not do it, it will just postpone it further giving more opportunity to turn it around.

Still GAL and detach though.

I am in the same boat with the D paperwork and just haven't had the heart to review and provided comments to make it happen. The W and her L are really pushing it through to make it fast. I disagree that such a life decision should be done so quickly.

I don't know really how she feels about the D paperwork. She is doing it but slowly and missing information.

I guess I am doing it to protect myself and keep L out of it. If I don't do it, W wanted to use L.

Also because limbo isn't a place I want to be and plan B is not for me (though I would consider relaxing that if it is health driven). Without a hard cutoff date, I think I would give in on any personal time boundary I set.

My therapist and friends advice is to keep pushing through it for my own good. Though only W knows, they suggest like you said that (a) W is only interested in EA/Hobby so all responsibility is bottom of the list, (b) there is no impact to her in the D, she is already checked out of M, gone and living a new life, and doing her thing so the D is of no concern or consequence for her, or (c) she knows I will handle it. In the M, I handled these things because I was good at them and W handled things she was good at. We were a good pair with life skills that complimented each our in M.

It is also provides the only opportunity where I interact with W at all. I have only seen W once in a month, talked once, and traded one email. We don't run in the same circles, so w/o D actions we wouldn't communicate until D day. So its the only way for her to see me and my personal improvements and for me to watch for changes in her.

Otherwise, I don't know, I guess the answer is that I'm doing it for my protection.

I was thinking that I help complete the current set of papers in front of us, but that I tell W that she has to be the one to physically file them which lets me leave it in her hands to to act on time or not.