[quote=Henwen]I do have an IC. And yes I have blown it several times with H at work. Every day I get a bit better. I can't believe how I felt so out of control in the first few months after he left. I'm in a much better place now.
great news. ^^
And that's what I don't understand. Lol. I have even said to him that if this divorce is really wants he wants then let's get it over with so we can both move on. But he still stalemates. why are you pushing for it if you don't want it and if you think it can be repaired with new dynamics and tools?
Maybe you can resist the urge to make those types of remarks.
I bounce back from he just wants me to make the decision to he will eventually come home once he is assured the arguiing can stop. I think this^^ is both mind reading and hoping. What if you just worked on not fighting and learning to resolve disagreements the way you would at a table of beloved friends with different opinions? That would be a win, regardless of what your h may feel or do or plan
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
