I tried to stay in the family home and told her she should leave but was having none of it and continued to carry out her A in front of me without any remorse or respect for my feelings. I literally was being systematically tortured mentally every day and had to put a border up for protection which meant me moving out. Hardest thing for me to do due to our kids still living there but at least now they see me 50% of the time BUT with none of the atmosphere...
I see now that this has just made it easier for her to move him in which hasn't happened yet! Don't understand that but it has allowed me to concentrate on the boys whilst not having anything to do with lala land and her moods which were preverlent due to the A and where her head is at at the moment. I must admit I do feel moving out has just made her life more wonderful and easier to carry on her A, she has the best of both worlds. She can continue to be mum half the week whilst the other half she can be free to carry on with the AP/LO.
You can maybe understand now why I feel so dejected and unmotivated to carry on for what is right and bring my family back together..
Thanks Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".