What is his overall goal? What is the goal worth to him? Where does it fall on his list of importance What is he willing to sacrifice to obtain it?
Right now I am not sure of my goal. I believe I am in a heightened state of angry vigilance. I have been through this before and it was very different last time. I feel so much more in control now. Control of myself and operating in a more effective manner. I guess I am vacillating on what I will do if I confirm the A. Is it just some flirty EA that hasn't fully materialized or are they plotting behind my back?
For the mean time, I will work the DB and wait for her next move.
Where I get stuck is when following the rules and becoming the best me, comes in. I'm grilling tonight for 3 of us and she is doing the fries. I will likely take off after dinner and be gone until bedtime.
She has been very nice and is definitely noticing the difference. During our last R convo we discussed telling the kids this weekend. I don't see that happening.
I wonder if she is vacillating or just cake eating. IDK
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
