A familiar story with questions..

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Everything I have read on here indicates to not bring it up, never mention it, ask what is going on etc. They call it limbo land.....I think there are some threads on it. My W told me she wanted a D on memorial day, I still do not have any papers and she moved out about 7 weeks ago.

My sitch has a similar time frame but some unique conditions. My W indicated there was no other path than D. I took that at face value and maybe I should not have. I filed at 1 month. My pain is fresh so I may not be the best input and I know filing goes against what is said here.

I did the filing because my W would not have done it. She is irresponsible with these types of things in the first place. I always had to handle paperwork and important thing in the M. It never bothered me and I was happy to do it since we complimented each other in these types of ways, but I hated having to file and hate having to push W along to do steps.

I did not and still do not want to D. I love my W dearly. Is she confused? I don't know, but she made a choice and I needed to protect myself and also knew limbo is not for me. Limbo seems like the same pain magnified. As much as it crushes me and as much as I struggle with it, I don't want to prolong the pain.

If she decides before D that she wants to try on the R/M then the D can be postponed or stopped. If the D completes then there is no after for our R.

I often feel I made a mistake filing, but it's done, and I felt it was better than limbo for me.

I know your pain. Rip the band-aid off is better than limbo.

I am not in that place right now. Maybe still pissed but I feel in control and for the most part I have a plan. GAL and DETACH.

I might recommend a book I just started listening to that might ease your pain. Called "Let It Go" .
You can find it on Amazon. I am bouncing back and forth from DR and this audio book. You might give it a try and get some relief.