it would bug me for awhile, about the uncle/dad going on as if nothing is happening
Maybe that will change when something changes officially, (i.e. you file)
b/c maybe your dad/uncle still harbor the hope that your h will see what he may lose by losing you...they remain close.
Why not just tell your dad to live by his own words, and your tell your uncle you feel he's choosing H by looking the other way even in the face of 3 little guys losing their dad and your m ending...
If they refuse then at least you know you were clear...(are you afraid of their response? Is not truly "knowing" where they stand, making you feel less valued?)
I felt I had to tell one of my brothers not to support h in his "adventure" on fb,
and my brother acted like I was crazy to even have to ask. But you never know. I'm glad I asked and really glad he acted as if it was a given. Sometimes it's not.
Oh when h posted on fb about OW "meeting the family" (meaning his dad/brother, Not our kids)
it was h's bff and wife who reached out to me first. They were horrified. (Several other mutual friends and family also did). Point is we never know how people really feel or how they see it and we cannot control that.
Not our sandbox. Life will show your h the consequences of his choices, life will teach him lessons; you don't have to worry about this^^^.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
