Okay, I have teen daughters. There is no real normal schedule. I read elsewhere in here, where I shouldn't show up, that the kids will be fine in the short term in exchange for the big picture.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Okay, I have teen daughters. There is no real normal schedule. I read elsewhere in here, where I shouldn't show up, that the kids will be fine in the short term in exchange for the big picture.
RR17,
Sometimes you just have to do what you think is best for yourself. I always take any opportunities to be with my sons.
And sometimes you have to follow a plan and do the work that doesn't align with your feelings.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Do whatever you are comfortable with. My birthday was WED and I did not invite my W to the party. I do not enjoy being around her and I realized that she does not deserve to be at my special day based on how she a treated me with her wayward ways.
If you think you can do it and be normal with engaging non-relationship conversation then do it. If not then maybe you take your d's out.
Well, I can be normal. I texted that if all were eating, that I would like to go. She responded that my oldest probably has plans. She would let me know.
We'll see.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Not there yet but preparing. I've seen it mentioned but not sure I fully understand.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Piecing is when both parties are (or say they are) committed to working on the realtionship and even then? Give it a few weeks or months to see if that is true.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
I went and performed well. Directed my conversation toward my youngest D and after dinner, W drove to pick up lotto tickets. (Not my idea.)
She asked if I wanted to go to the clothing store with them and I nicely declined.
This is the second night that she has slept on the couch.
D BD on Tuesday and no word 4 days later.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Everything I have read on here indicates to not bring it up, never mention it, ask what is going on etc. They call it limbo land.....I think there are some threads on it. My W told me she wanted a D on memorial day, I still do not have any papers and she moved out about 7 weeks ago.
