Dig in buddy and realize that you may or may not know what it is. Post a lot and read a lot and know you are not alone.
Read Sandi's rules
Seems counterintuitive but it will help you.

Prays

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.