Originally Posted By: LoisB

For those struggling with the adultery and hearing about soulmates and blah, blah, blah... It's not what you think. It's empty and offers only the illusion of a carefree life--Know that. No matter how much they may try to convince you otherwise.


To read of your sitch and especially the timeline is a little daunting for someone who's only 18 months post-BD, though I take comfort in what you say about the OP. From afar the OM in my sitch seems to have it all but on closer inspection: Never married; No children; No contest... my Ss will always be my greatest adventure/achievement.

I'm glad to hear of where you are currently and that with recent ex-H's communication you can finally lay any remaining self-doubt to rest.


Me 50, ExW 49
T21, M13+
S15, S13
BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY)
Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts
Oct-2016 W petitions for D
Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed
Jun-2018 D'd