WW in A. NC promise broke. Separation? (5th thread

[hoosjim]

Actually, important correction to the above: I did NOT tell W that I " did not want to put that on S18", but rather that " I did not want him to have to deal with that right now." Important distinction, and I had considered my words carefully before telling her, because I didn't want to take any of the responsibility personally for what my son would have to be facing there.


Also,We took S17 down too at last minute and she made a show of laying down next to him on his hotel bed to help him with in summer project he was doing and then going to sleep so she wouldn't be sleeping in the same bed with me.S18 asked if I wanted him to wake her up and I said no let her sleep. She of course made a point of mentioning this later,saying "I figured you'd prefer we not be in the same bed.


I sense another attempt to "talk" coming tonight. Right now, I have told her I am not interestep in talking about MR (don't trust her enough). But have been in the position of listening a couple of times. Monday, after most recent blow up, when she had supposedly called OM to "say they couldn't talk anymore so she could figure out things with hoosjim", she asked me "what else do you want from me", to which I responded "I don't want anything ftom you, I don't trust you. If YOU want ME to trust you, if there is ever to be any hope of that, I would need you to come to me and say "what do you need me to do", and mean it, and then be willing to follow through. In other words I'd need you to prove it." And that's where that kind of got left.

My question is... what should I be needing to see from her demeanor-wise to give her any kind of access? I can't see anything she would say or do that would make me want to stop the separation progression. But is that maybe too harsh and inflexible?

Incidentally, Goin line dancing tonight, if I can spend a little early quality time with kids. First night in a while it's been cool enough for jeans and boots...