Yes if you look at things from her position, the best possible outcome is that she can do whatever she wants, and you stay available to her willing to do whatever she wants whenever she wants it.
She will try to manipulate the situation to get that outcome. If you think about it, what she's doing is scary, so the ideal is that she can change her mind at any time, call the whole thing off, and have you take her back.
When she starts to figure out that getting you back might not be a slam dunk and you might not actually be available to her now or in the future, she's going to resist that, because its not what she wants, and she will try many different approaches to get you in line, both ranting at you and trying to court your sympathy.
You did the right thing -- as Sandy said, do not be emotionally available to her. What she's doing is of her own making and it is not your job to soften the landing for her. When she asked what you want from her, its a good strategy to say "what do you think I want?", or just say something like "I don't need anything from you at this point" or "I want you to find the happiness you're looking for and I'm going to do the same" but stay far, far away from "I want you back."
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
